Handling holiday stress in isolation

On Nov. 23, the County Health and Human Services Agency confirmed 1,546 new COVID-19 cases, passing a record set just a few days prior. The rise in cases and hospitalizations, and San Diego’s readmittance to the purple tier, has cast a shadow on the winter holidays.

According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control, in June, nearly 40 percent of the adult population was suffering from COVID-19-related mental health issues.

Maricela Larkin, a clinical therapist, said it is important to recognize that the isolation and stress of the pandemic has affected many.

“It is OK to recognize that we are upset even though we don’t have anyone in particular to blame,” said Larkin, who has formal training in trauma intervention. “It is OK to recognize that this has taken our energy, that this has taken our hope away. It is OK to go through this difficult time.”

San Diego County laid out official restrictions and recommendations for the winter holidays that are likely to add strain to what is a typically stressful season during what has already been a difficult year. Festivals, live-entertainment and gatherings of more than three households are prohibited, even if held outside, and certain seasonal attractions like ice-skating rinks will not be allowed to open.

In a free counseling video on her website, Larkin recommends those struggling with COVID-19 trauma to unite and stay connected.

“It is extremely important to recognize that these are not times to isolate. Do not go through this alone,” she said.

“While we want to be respectful to what the authorities are asking us to do and practice social distancing, one of the most important things we must do when we are experiencing the effects of trauma is to stay in connection with one another…Find at least one good friend or one good counselor who can help you process your thoughts and emotions.”

Whether seeking professional help or personal connection, technology has allowed people to stay connected during isolation. Many counseling and therapy services have shifted to online platforms, like Chula Vista-based family counselors Seeking Therapy, who are temporarily offering online therapy sessions. They can be found at www.seekingtherapy.com.

Zoom removed their 40-minute limit on free meetings on Thanksgiving, allowing families celebrating in isolation to chat as long as they wanted.

Trauma-trained yoga instructor Claire Ameya Bela said yoga can be an excellent way to create a mental safe space during the holidays.

“Yoga is really about self-care. Yoga asks you to embrace how you feel and honor it,” said Bela, who wrote and leads the curriculum for Southwestern College’s yoga teacher training program. “My favorite thing about yoga is that when I take a yoga class, or when I have students take my class, my intention is to refill their cup, not deplete them.”