Sat, Mar 08 2014 12:00 PM Posted By: Randy Bellamy
Now that New Year resolutions are a distant memory and Valentine’s Day is long gone, Mardi Gras are passed, but nobody really remembers that anyway.
It does seem that some consideration for those people we profess to care deeply about should be acted upon before the March madness escapes our grasp.
Hats and Horns, champagne, flowers and chocolates even shiny beads are great, but ephemeral.
In my business I see firsthand how fragile life can be, but also how insulated people can be from the obvious and inevitable. I frequently talk to people who seem to be caught emotionally and financially off guard when their 104 year old parent passes away, even after a lengthy illness.
The philosophy I subscribe to is “live your way; leave your way.” Preparation for what is inescapable does not cause negative outcomes. On the contrary, this level of preparation is a legacy and a life lesson for the family. Tools for this preparation would include a will and financial planning to maintain the social framework. Seek out professional advice.
Additionally, a completed advance health care directive which includes disposition is especially important in expressing your wishes beyond your capacity in the event of a catastrophic illness.
A new tool is the POLST directive which is “Physicians Orders for Life Sustaining-Treatment”. This document along with an advanced heath care directive carries the weight of Doctor’s orders with regard to end of life care.You can request that every intervention be tried, or none, according to your instruction and in concurrence with your doctor.
These simple steps prevent the headline grabbing controversies that command media attention and end up in the courts.
We also find that peace of mind and rational spending for funeral expenses can be arranged through advanced planning of funeral, cremation, and burial expenses. Village and Balboa are full service value based funeral homes with capability for any imaginable service option.You can live your way and leave your way with grace and confidence. That caring conversation may be difficult to approach. But the rewards are tremendous in real family communication and true expression. My team of trained professionals is always available to assist with that conversation. Give your family a special and lasting valentine gift… peace of mind.
Bellamy is the founder of Village Cremation Services FD-2110 at 303 F Street in downtown Chula Vista and owner of Balboa Cremation services FD-1370, 30th and Adams Street in Normal Heights. Randy is a civic leader and frequent contributor to the Star News. Randy can be contacted at (619) 422-7900.
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